July 15, 2017
The answer to the question you seek is, you no longer want to be controlled. When you examine the things in front of you right now and see them as challenges or obstacles, they are there because you desired to move beyond them, so they no longer control your life.
You no longer want your happiness to be dependent on the actions, thoughts, or words of others. You had a goal of the experience of autonomy, and there was no better manner in which you might achieve this than the particular path you are on.
None of this then is accidental, but always asked for by you to help you achieve your original goal of freedom, or not being controlled.