Attempt to see yourself in them. Whenever you look at another while holding the intention of finding understanding, the understanding you always discover is that of yourself.
The other person or group is always in front of you to serve as a personal reflection, if you will, to point out to you all the things that you desire to change, improve, release, or in some other way cause you to become more; always. You know these events are not accidental and are only before you at your bequest so decide to use the experience wisely.
Rely on how you feel rather than attempting to try and figure it all out logically, and you will find more clarity.